What's Happening in Kansas - Major Legislation updates as of April 21, 2023

Passed bills:

HB 2238--the sports ban. This was passed, the Governor vetoed it, and the legislature overrode the veto, so it becomes law. The next step is litigation and to try to stop it through the courts. The good news is West Virginia has been successful in getting the Supreme Court to uphold the pause on implimentation while they make their way through litigation, so their sports ban on trans girls in girls sports won't take effect while it is tried in the courts. So that is the hope right now. 

The rest of the bills have been passed but are awaiting an expected Governor's veto: 

SB 180--the "Women's Bill of Rights," a bill that would define women as biological females, men as biological males, mothers as female parents, fathers as male parents, separate as not necessarily unequal in the case of sex segregation, it would force trans folks to use the bathroom, jail, domestic violence shelter or rape crisis center sex segregated space of their gender assigned at birth, and it would only allow for gathering of vital statistis on crime, victimization, and discrimination using Female and Male, meaning they are setting up structurally our experience of more hate violence and harassment and the conditions by which that injustice can't be recorded or intelligible to the state. 

SB 26--formerly SB233, was amended at 2:30 am with a partial gut and go add that added the gender affirming care ban for minors and then passed literally in the dead of night (so the legislation hasn't been updated online yet, but when it is it can be found here). This bill bans surgeries, hormones, and hormone blockers to minors, allows minors to sue the doctors or surgeons in civil court, and allows the board of healing arts to remove doctor's licenses. It does have the phrasing that might allow for parents or others to be targeted for allowing to be performed, but that is no longer linked to felony charges, so it is still a question about how much it will impact therapists, parents, and others that support a child's gender affirming care. 

HB 2138--legislates overnight trips. Requires schools seperate and house students on overnight trips based on biological sex, causing trans students to be housed based on their biological sex. And if a school violates this rule, the school can be permanently closed.  

SB 228--covers county jails. Requires separate housing/rooms based on sex. But the note about male and female has been removed, so there is more room for interpretation now, but with SB 180, it is still going to force trans folks into carceral housing based on biology rather than gender. 

Response to the Leaked Supreme Court of the United States Draft Majority Opinion That Could Overturn Roe v. Wade

If you want to get involved in local organizing, join us for Pizza and Politics on AJ’s Patio at 301 Ponytz Ave, Manhattan, KS on May 13, 2022 at 6pm.

Nearly 50 years ago Roe v. Wade legalized abortion nationwide in the U.S. In a 98-page document published by Politico on Monday May 2nd, labeled “1st Draft” as an opinion of the Court allegedly written by Justice Alito, the public learned some of the first thoughts of the majority opinion in Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization. The Dobbs v. Jackson case challenges Mississippi’s ban on abortion after 15 weeks and the draft opinion suggests that the Supreme Court has found that not only is such a ban legal, but that Roe v. Wade was decided wrong, and has overturned it. A lot is at stake in this case. Here are the major points to be aware of as we continue to learn more about the devastating contours of this potential decision in Dobbs v. Jackson:

 

1.  Overturning Roe v. Wade’s abortion access protections. Since Roe was decided court decisions have chipped away at abortion access, from allowing protesters to harass those seeking this medical procedure, to requiring factually inaccurate “education,” to state enforced waiting periods, to parental consent and spousal notification laws. Part of overturning Roe in this decision would give complete authority to decide abortion rights back to individual states. This means that people with uteruses right’s will be determined based on where they live. Without federal protections, states can pass full or partial bans on abortion and it will be the most marginalized that face dire consequences. What we know, is that people of color, trans men, non-binary folks, Indigenous populations, those living at or close to the poverty line, sexual assault survivors, and those who exist at the intersection of those identities will be the most adversely impacted by this.

 

2.  The decision overturns Roe based on narrowing people’s “right to autonomy” and that implicates other decisions and the rights they protect that will hurt the queer community. Lawrence v Texas (2003), which banned laws against sodomy and protected consensual private sex acts from state prosecution and Obergefell v. Hodges (2015), which granted the right to marry a person of the same sex, are both cited within the opinion as “too much” and potentially affording “fundamental rights to illicit drug use, prostitution, and the like.” The opinion goes on to argue that “None of these rights has any claim to being deeply rooted in history” (p. 31). The concern is this decision lays the ground work for making queer sex criminally prosecutable again, same-sex marriage up to individual states, birth control at best regulated, at worst, banned for so many that need it for a variety of medical needs.

 

3.  People with uteruses are considered the property of men, not their own person with inalienable rights by this opinion. No one should have the right to use our bodies against our will. Bodily autonomy is at the core of human liberty. Yet, the precedents cited in the opinion as having the proper historical foundations are British Common Law. This includes a treatise by Jurist Sir Matthew Hale titled “Pleas of the Crown!” in which he argues that rape in a marriage is impossible because men are entitle to their wive’s bodies and wives having married their husbands can never revoke consent.* Women are the property of men. Thus, the logical leap is that abortion is a crime because it is destroying the property of the husband/inseminator, the pregnant person is without liberty or rights. Those with uteruses become less human with this decision. Other precedents make it clear that people cannot be compelled to give blood, have their organs harvested, or be medically experimented on without their explicit consent, even if another person will die without such intervention. Yet, because pregnancy is unique to those seen historically as chattel, it is being re-codified into law.

*Hale writes: “For the husband cannot be guilty of a rape committed by himself upon his lawful wife for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given up herself in this kind unto her husband which she cannot retract.”

 

4.  This is not new. The U.S. has a long history of controlling people with uteruses’ reproduction—both coercing us and destroying our ability to have children. This includes: forcing enslaved Black and brown people with uteruses to bare children often through rape for the economic profit of slave holders; eugenic pressure on “white women” to have numerous children to prevent the elimination of the white race; genocidal sterilization programs that targeted people of color, Indigenous folks, and people with disabilities in order to eliminate such populations from future society, with these medical procedures happening without their consent often as children; forcing trans men to get sterilized to legally change their gender markers on legal documents; making healthcare unaffordable for poor people so treatable medical conditions become life-threatening, sterilizing, or fatal based on economic status; pairing social welfare programs with sterilization requirements; destroying intersex people’s ability to have children by engaging in legally sanctioned genital and surgical mutilation when they are too young to consent; taking children away from parents that test positive for substance use; forcing undocumented pregnant people to give birth against their will while in U.S. detention facilities even though their right to an abortion was ostensibly legally protected; and so many other examples of violating our bodily autonomy. Ours is a history of violation, not protection. Relying on precedent is the problem, not the solution. We need a new understanding of rights and bodily integrity if we are to usher in a future in which we all are able to access the full measure of our humanity.     

 

What can we do to protect each other and our community?

 

1.  Mutual Aid. Queer community has a beautiful history of centering chosen family. In building the families we want and deserve, we show-up for each other’s core needs without the condition that we ever shrink our authentic selves. Mutual Aid takes that model and applies it society-wide. We can show-up for each other—in the streets to demand change, in our daily lives to make sure folks have access to food, healthcare, shelter, and bodily autonomy. Where the State fails, we can protect each other. To access mutual aid or to help participate in mutual aid, click here: https://northviewrising.org/mutual-aid-mhk  

 

2.  Register to vote. There are far more of us that believe in the full humanity of women and queer folks, but too few of us vote. Register to vote here, and let’s shift who makes the decisions and how rights are afforded: https://www.kdor.ks.gov/apps/voterreg/default.aspx

 

3.  Vote Aug. 2 to prevent the passage of a constitutional amendment that would allow Kansas to ban abortion in the state. Kansas lawmakers have tried to limit abortions before in our state. However, in 2019 in a 6-1 ruling the Kansas Supreme Court interpreted Section 1 and 2 of the Kansas Bill of Rights within the Kansas Constitution as protecting abortion as a fundamental right. We are presently facing a state-wide vote on a constitutional amendment August 2nd that would clarify there is no Kansas constitutional right to abortion or requirement for the government to fund abortions. This amendment would allow state legislators the ability to control access to abortion, including banning access to the procedure entirely. We need as many no votes as we can get!

Important local deadlines:

  • June 1 at 12 p.m. (noon): Primary declaration changes for Democrat and Republicans. Unaffiliated may affiliate at any time.

  • July 12: Voter registration deadline. If there is an address change, you must update your voter registration.

  • July 13: Advance voting begins.

For those in Riley County: You may advance vote in the Riley County Clerk’s office or you can complete an advance application and have the ballot mailed to your residence. If you already have completed an advance application, it will be mailed starting July 13. Advance voting applications are available at the Riley County Clerk’s office Hospitality Desk located at 110 Courthouse Plz, Manhattan, KS 66502.

For those in other areas: Other counties have different deadlines. See your County Clerk’s website for details.

  • July 26: Last day to request a mail-in ballot for the Primary Election.

  • Aug. 1: Advance voting at the County building (110 Courthouse Plz, Manhattan, KS 66502) closes at 12 p.m. (noon)

  • Aug. 2: Primary Election polls open from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m.

 

4.  Run for Office. Get into positions of power. We need smart, capable, politically savvy, fabulous queers in power making decisions. We need you on our School Boards, in our State Legislators, in our County DA’s offices, and as local, state, and federal Judges. We need you everywhere decisions are being made. It is revolutionary for queer folks to take-up space in a world that thinks we are disposable. We need to be the ones to protect each other and all those who would be harmed by abuses of power. If we work in coalition, all oppressed peoples will have a brighter future, together.

5.  Vote for and support lawmakers working to end the Congressional Filibuster. For Congress to codify abortion access, anti-discrimination laws, and healthcare protections they need to be able to pass laws with only 50 votes. Right now they need 60 to override a filibuster. Without ending the filibuster few if any laws can be passed.

 

6. Organize to:

a.  End Prison Gerrymandering. So many of our queer siblings end up in prison because they are kicked out of their family of origin’s homes, engage in survival economies that have been criminalized, have been subjected to the foster care to prison pipeline, or have been targeted for police harassment and increased criminal punishment because of their queerness. Once incarcerated, the census counts prisoners toward the total population of a prison town, but so many with felonies are not allowed to vote. This means that conservative prison towns have disproportionate political representation at the state level, using the bodies of our incarcerated siblings to do so. We need to fight the criminal punishment system and prison Gerrymandering that uses so many of our bodies to maintain its power.

B. Pass The Equality Act (HR 5). Right now, queer folks rely on a specific interpretation of the 1965 Civil Rights Act by the courts that sees prohibitions on discrimination on the basis of “sex” as covering sexual orientation and gender identity. If as this opinion signals, the U.S. Supreme Court is leaning toward not interpreting “sex” to include sexual orientation and gender identity, we need a federal law that explicitly marks those as protected categories.

c.  Pass the Women’s Health Protection Act. HR 3755 is Federal legislation that protects “a person’s ability to determine whether to continue or end a pregnancy, and to protect a health care provider’s ability to provide abortion services.”



Could What Happened in Texas Happen Here?

Over the last two weeks we've seen Texas go after queer youth and their supporters. But could it happen here? The Kansas Legislature has seven anti-LGBT bills being considered this session, several of which would lay the foundation to make the life saving gender affirming care of our young people a felony. Join us for some much needed queer community bonding Weds. March 9th at 6 pm on the Public Hall back patio. We will get to discuss HB 2210, HB 2662, SB484, SB 214, SB 496, SB 515, and redistricting. We will also have opportunities to find out more about our new LGBTQ Youth Resource Center here in Manhattan that is launching this Spring, "True Colors."

Join together in coalition with the Flint Hills Human Rights Project, Little Apple Pride, True Colors, and the K-State LGBTQ* Faculty/Staff Alliance. We will share resources on how to fight upcoming anti-trans legislation in Kansas and ways to support each other and LGBTQ youth moving forward.

Bills that are dangerous to our queer community:

HB 2210

Making it a crime for a doctor to perform gender reassignment surgery or hormone replacement therapy on minors

HB 2662

Substitute for HB 2662 by Committee on K-12 Education Budget - Establishing the parents' bill of rights and academic transparency act, requiring school districts to establish parent transparency portals to provide information on materials that are used or made available in schools, prohibiting schools from non-renewing a teacher's contract for refusing to teach against certain beliefs or practices and establishing requirements for the administration of certain nonacademic tests, questionnaires, etc.

SB 484

Enacting the fairness in women's sports act to require that student athletic teams only include members who are of the same biological sex unless designated as coed.

SB 214

Making it a crime for a physician to perform gender reassignment surgery or hormone replacement therapy on certain children.

SB 496

Establishing the parents' bill of rights for parents of students attending elementary or secondary school in this state.

SB 515

Requiring nondiscrimination in school district classroom instruction, public access to learning materials and removal of inherently divisive concepts from state board of education policies, guidelines and other materials.

Redistricting

The new redistricting map functionally eliminates Sharice Davids seat and artificially jerrymanders parts of Kansas.

Bills that are exciting and give us some hope!

HB 2666

Creates an X option for gender markers on state paperwork and Drivers Licenses.

Help stop SB 208!

Kansas is trying to separate transgender students from their peers, and keep them from fair and equitable access to sports. The bill will require traumatizing genital exams, it will teach our children to discriminate, and it instills into policy transgender exclusions in ways that hurt all children, but particularly queer youth that are already at some of the highest risk for dropping out of school and suicide. Our legislators need to hear from you.

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The Senate needs to know that every time they consider a bill that threatens queer youth, Kansans are going to show up and oppose it. But we need your help. Below is the contact information for the Senate members that control the bill moving forward to the full Senate.

Please be courteous and respectful, but let them know your opposition to the bill and why.


Senator Molly Baumgardner (R – Louisburg)

Senate District 37

Molly.Baumgardner@senate.ks.gov; molly@molly4kansas.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7368

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 445-S, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Brenda Dietrich (R – Topeka)

Senate District 20

Brenda.Dietrich@senate.ks.gov; dietrbre@gmail.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7648

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 223-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Renee Erickson (R – Wichita)

Senate District 30

Renee.Erickson@senate.ks.gov; ericksonforkansas@gmail.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7476

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 541-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Beverly Gossage (R – Eudora)

Senate District 9

Beverly.Gossage@senate.ks.gov;

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7382

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 237-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Rick Kloos (R – Berryton)

Senate District 19

Rick.Kloos@senate.ks.gov; kloosforkansas@gmail.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7645

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 541-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Kristen O’Shea (R – Topeka)

Senate District 18

Kristen.O’Shea@senate.ks.gov; kristen@osheastrengthscoaching.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7656

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 441-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Pat Pettey (D – Kansas City)

Senate District 6

Pat.Pettey@senate.ks.gov; jmphp42@yahoo.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7375

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 125-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Alicia Straub (R – Ellinwood)

Senate District 33

Alicia.Straub@senate.ks.gov; straubforkansas@gmail.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-7682

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 237-E, Topeka, KS 66612


Senator Dinah Sykes (D – Lenexa)

Senate District 21

Dinah.Sykes@senate.ks.gov; dinah@dinahsykes.com

Statehouse phone: 785-296-3245

Statehouse address: 300 SW 10th St, Room 318-E, Topeka, KS 66612


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An Open Letter: A Call for Informed Consent for HRT Care In and For Our Community

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Ignorance and transphobia in the medical establishment is a concern to us across the nation as well as in our Little Apple community. In lieu of Transgender Awareness Week, our board members have written the following letter which will be distributed to the local healthcare professionals.


FLINT HILLS HUMAN RIGHTS PROJECT | AN OPEN LETTER

November 17, 2019 | A Call for Informed Consent for Hormone Therapy (HRT) Care In and For Our Community

Many health services across the U.S. use what is known as an informed consent approach for care connected to hormone therapy (HRT). An informed consent approach removes the requirement to meet with a mental health provider as a prerequisite to accessing gender affirming care. From University Health Services to Planned Parenthood to individual Primary Care Physicians, informed consent has become an evidence-based standard for providers committed to best practices for trans, gender non-conforming, and queer care. The Flint Hills Human Rights Project calls on healthcare providers in our community to practice informed consent for HRT prescriptions in order to better care for our community.

The outdated and harmful alternative to informed consent is unfortunately starting to become more the norm than the exception here in the Flint Hills. Too often trans, gender non-conforming, and queer patients are being subjected to costly, stigmatizing, burdensome practices when it comes to accessing hormones and gender affirming care. Requiring clients first be treated by a mental health professional and receive a letter of assessment with formal endorsement in support of medical care is a gate-keeping measure and double standard. Those seeking hormone therapy for menopause, low testosterone, birth control, hirsutism, male-pattern hair loss, and other conditions are not forced to get an endorsement of their mental health. Not only is getting a letter from a mental health professional a double standard when it comes to prescribing hormones, it has material consequences. In a state with almost a quarter of a million people without health insurance (2018 Kansas Health Institute Report) and a trans population subjected to poverty at a rate of 36 percent (U.S. Transgender Survey Report: Kansas), which is triple the rate of the general population, requiring unnecessary and expensive mental healthcare to access gender affirming care is devastating. It is cost prohibitive for many. It will drive some to access hormones through extra-legal methods, which will risk further exposure to the criminal punishment system. But for those who go through the process of getting their letter, it is a stigmatizing experience that further fuels health disparities. It also assumes we don’t know who we are or what our needs are in terms of our gender.

The Flint Hills Human Rights Project calls on local healthcare providers to join us in working to eliminate health bias and health disparities by adopting an informed consent approach to gender affirming HRT care. Access to gender affirming care improves lives. It saves lives. It helps physicians fulfill their oath to do no harm by removing these expensive, often cost-prohibitive, and pathologizing obstacles to care. We are advocates for and proponents of mental health care and increased access to services. Therapy can be life changing but should not be used as a bully stick nor obstacle to services.

Recommendations for further reading:

  • To learn more about informed consent for hormone therapy see this article by Timothy Cavanaugh, Ruben Hopwood, and Cei Lambert as well as this article by Sarah L. Schulz.

  • For research on concerns about regret or malpractice claims see this article by Madeline B Deutsch.

  • For “Guidelines for the Primary and Gender-Affirming Care of Transgender and Gender Nonbinary People” from the Center of Excellence for Transgender Health at University of California, San Francisco, see this PDF.

Little Apple Affirming Wedding Vendors

Are you getting married in Manhattan, Kansas? With the help of our community, we have complied a list of affirming local wedding vendors for your special day. If you and your business would like to be on this list, please email us at fhhrp@yahoo.com and put “To Sarah” in the subject.

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Photo Credit: rocknwillow.com

Officiators

Cakes

Florist

Venues

Jewelry

Catering

Event Planner

Wedding Parties

Dance Instructor

Ballroom Dance School Manhattan ( for Couple’s First Dance, Wedding Dance, Mother/Son, Father/Daughter) - 913.703.5336 Tim@BallroomDanceMHK.com

DJ

Musicians

  • Heather Broadwater McCornack (singer and pianist) - heathermccornack24@gmail.com

Photographers

Graphic Designer

Intersex Ally Tip of the Day

The following tips are from LGBTQIA Resource Center: “Remember it is not their duty to discuss intersex at any time, or that they will be comfortable discussing all aspects: follow their lead.”


About the Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. Sarah has a Health Science degree with an emphasis in Health Promotions. In addition to her volunteer work, Sarah is an online ESL teacher and a Certified Lactation Counselor with Little Apple Doulas. In her spare time, she enjoys hosting book clubs with her spouse, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl. 

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Message from the 2019 FHHRP Chair

Hello,


Please allow me to introduce myself, I am the new chairperson of the Flint Hills Human Rights Project (FHHRP). I've been around for a long, long time, though. I am the longest-serving member of the FHHRP Executive Board, and the only person from the original FHHRP Executive Board still serving. 


The FHHRP was first organized in 2005-2006 with our original chair, Christopher Renner, in order to fight against the anti-gay marriage amendment then being proposed for the state constitution of Kansas. That amendment passed in April of 2006, although it and all other such laws and amendments would later be ruled unconstitutional.Just as all laws and amendments against interracial marriage were ruled unconstitutional before them. In Kansas, Douglas County had the highest NO vote against the amendment (where it was defeated). Riley County had the second-highest NO vote against the amendment, where it came within 300 votes of going down to defeat.


The FHHRP later campaigned for the addition of the LGBT community to the city human rights ordinance of Manhattan, Kansas. It took a total of three attempts under FHHRP chairs Christopher Renner, Jonathan Mertz and finally by FFHRP chairs Mike Herman, Ted Morgan and Katie Jordan, but that effort succeeded in 2016. The first attempt was approved by the city Human Rights  and Services Board but did not pass the city commission. The second attempt was approved by the city commission, only to be voted down by the next city commission before it could take effect. It was the third attempt that was a success, and housing and services protections for the LGBT community in the city of Manhattan took effect in 2017.


Needless to say, the struggle for human rights including LGBT rights is not over in our community, in our country and in the world. I urge you all to participate in future activities sponsored by the FHHRP. Also, our Executive Board business meetings are open to all members and you are welcome to attend.


Kate Lambert

FHHRP Chair

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What to expect in your first therapy appointment

The thought of going to therapy can be daunting. Some people think that you only go to therapy when you are going through a huge crisis. There can be feelings of shame and stigma surrounding the idea of going to therapy. The purpose of this article is calm some of your jitters by walking you through what an initial therapy session is like.

Self Compassion

Going to therapy is an act of showing yourself compassion. It’s a desire to be a healthier person and a desire to change for the better. Usually people don’t scoff when you go to the dentist or a medical doctor or a massage therapist. Our mental health and relationships need care too and there is no shame in helping yourself in all aspects of your life.

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Why do people go to therapy?

There are many reasons why people may decide to go to therapy. The sky is the limit. Here are a few reasons…

  • Finding the courage to come out to your parents

  • Abuse

  • Miscarriage

  • Wanting to improve or strengthen a relationship

  • Uncertainty about life decisions

  • How to deal with emotional cut off from your family

  • Depression or anxiety

  • Trying to have a healthy body image

  • Infidelity

  • Troubles with in-laws

  • Trying to figure out what career to pursue

  • Spiritual abuse or trauma

  • PTSD

  • Suicidal thoughts or self-harming behaviors

  • Going to college away from home for the first time

  • Anger management

  • Social anxiety

  • Pre-marital counseling

  • A desire to trust yourself more

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What to expect in your first therapy session

The initial session is generally called an intake. The purpose of the first session is for you to find out if the therapist is a good fit for you and for the therapist to better understand your needs and goals for therapy. Before the first session you can call the clinic and request a free phone consultation with the therapist. On the phone or during your first session you can ask your therapist how long of a time commitment you should expect.

The initial session is an ice breaker session where you get to know your therapist and your therapist gets to know you. They will probably ask what your expectations of therapy are and why you chose to come to therapy. They will also ask about your family and medical background. Feel free to ask your therapist about their therapy style and whatever else you want to know about them. Think of it as a two-way interview. This article from self.com suggests to “ask your therapist what progress might look like and how often you should check in to gauge that progress.”

Marla B. Cohen, a therapist interviewed on goodtherapy.org points out that “You should feel safe, accepted, respected, and relatively comfortable. Not all therapists are right for every person, so use your first session to assess whether or not the therapist you chose feels like a good match for your personality.” Therapy is a unique relationship in which you will be discussing very personal topics. Find someone that you feel is informed about the topics you want to discuss and with whom you feel you can be open.

If you want to change to a different therapist…

Sometimes you switch medical doctors and it’s also okay if you want or need to switch therapists. This is normal and you have every right to do so. It’s your money and your time so think of it as an investment in yourself. Find someone who jives with you. You can tell your current therapist and they will understand. Or you can reschedule with the secretary and ask for another therapist in the same office. Another option is to search for a different therapist in a different practice or clinic.

Hopefully, you’ll love your therapist as much as Kristen Bell loves hers. : )

Local low income therapy options

The K-State Family Center offers counseling for students and community members. It is located on campus at Campus Creek Complex. The fee is determined by a sliding fee scale based on income and number of household members. For more information, you can contact The Family Center at this number: 785.532.6984.

Another option is Pawnee Mental Health Services on 2001 Claflin Road. They also provide services in Wamego and Junction City. If you do not have health insurance, the fee is based on a sliding fee scale dependent on your level of income. If you are insured, the insurance company will be billed and you will be responsible for the co-pay. You can call your insurance company to determine how much your co-pay is with insurance. If you are on Medicaid then it’s free. They also have a sliding scale fee for non-insured. You can contact Pawnee Mental Health Services with any questions at this number: 785.587.4300.

An option for K-State students is also Kansas State University Counseling Services. They support the SAFE ZONE on campus. They are located at 1105 Sunset Ave., Room 101 in Manhattan, Kansas. Contact them with any questions at this number: 785.532.6927

Ally Trans Tip of the Day

The following tips are from LGBTQIA Resource Center: “Instead of saying someone was born a boy (or a girl), try saying they were assigned male at birth (or were assigned female).  These terms recognize the difference between sex & gender, and emphasize the ways in which sex & gender are assigned to individuals at birth, rather than being innate, binary or immutable qualities.  AND… you can ask yourself if it is necessary to even mention what sex someone was assigned at birth.”


About the Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP and is an ally of LGBTQIA+ folks. Sarah has a degree in Health Science with an emphasis in Public Health. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. In addition to her volunteer work, Sarah is an online ESL teacher. In her spare time, she enjoys hosting book clubs with her husband, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl. 

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4 Self-Care Ideas for Queer Folks During the Holidays

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The Holidays can be a rough time of the year. For some queer folks, going home for Holidays is sometimes not even an option. In a Bustle article, Marissa Higgins empathizes with queer folks by pointing out how “It's also useful to remember that while some LGBTQ[+] people are not explicitly estranged from family, they may choose to avoid or limit family interactions for their mental or physical health. This, too, is valid! What's more, coming out to family is a complicated process for many people, and just because someone is out in their daily life, or to their friends, does not mean they feel safe coming out to family.” With this in mind, let’s explore four practical self-care ideas for queer people of all ages.

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#1. Practice Healthy Personal Boundaries

What are personal boundaries? Dr. Julie De Azevedo Hanks, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker defines boundaries as “what enable us to define ourselves as unique individuals while simultaneously allowing us to interact with others. Where and how we set our boundaries moderates our balance between being a distinct individual and being interconnected with others.”

Setting boundaries are about taking personal responsibility to state what you like, dislike and it’s also advocating for your emotional and physical safety. It also allows you to belong to your self and your values and opinions while respecting others who may think differently than you.

To further expound on the idea of boundaries, Hanks often uses a fence analogy. She explains, “If your boundaries are weak, they’re like a fence without strong posts that can easily be pushed over. On the other hand, if your boundaries are too rigid, it’s as if you’ve built a high stone wall with no gate to enter or exit. Whether you’re aware of this or not, you decide what kind of a fence you’ll build and what comes in and out of your personal space—physical and emotional.”

The University of California compares different types of boundaries in the table below…

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Hanks helps individuals detect when boundaries are weak by encouraging people to reflect on when they have feelings of resentment. For instance, when we start resenting someone it oftentimes stems from a lack on our part to say “no.” In other words, it means our boundaries have been breached and we need to be more clear to others.

For additional help with setting healthy boundaries, click here.

#2. Connect with Friends

Finding someone to hang out with is a great way to cope during the Holidays. Plan a “Friendsgiving” or see what is going on locally. Being around people who allow you to be yourself is very rejuvenating and important. Apps such as Bumble or Marco Polo are great for finding friends and connecting to people too.

#3. Read a Queer Memoir

Reading queer memoir’s can be affirming, educational and relaxing for queer folks.

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#4. Treat Yo Self!

Give yourself permission to spoil yourself this Holiday season by taking the day off, eating at your favorite restaurant, going on a trip just for you, going to a concert or enjoying a warm bubble bath. Treat yourself how you would treat your closest friend.

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Ally Tip of the Day

Be aware of the diversity of trans & genderqueer lives. Keep in mind how these identities are part of other identities, and intersect with race, class, sexual orientation, age, immigration status, etc.*

*Tip provided by LGBTQIA.ucdavis.edu


About The Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP and an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Sarah has a degree in Health Science with an emphasis in Public Health. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. In her spare time she enjoys hosting book clubs with her partner, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl.

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SAFE Zone Allies

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Before we discuss SAFE Zone Allies, let’s define what an ally is and is not.

What is an Ally?

According to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), an ally is "a person who is a member of the dominant or majority group who works to end oppression in their personal and professional life through support of, and as an advocate for, the oppressed population." Allies use their privilege to promote positive change in their communities and have been successful in changing the dominant culture. Allies can help racial, religious and ethnic minorities as well.

The HRC identifies what Allies endeavor to be…

  • A friend

  • A listener

  • Have their own opinions

  • Have safe boundaries

  • Confront their own prejudices

  • Engage in the process of developing a culture free of homophobia, transphobia and heterosexism

  • Recognize their blind spots and mistakes and never dismiss them or use them as an excuse for inaction

  • Believe that all persons regardless of age, sex, race, religion, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression should be treated with dignity and respect

  • Recognize when to refer an individual to additional resources

  • Engage in the process of developing a culture free of homophobia, transphobia and heterosexism

  • Be responsible for empowering their role in a community, particularly as it relates to responding to homophobia or transphobia

  • Recognize the legal powers and privileges that cisgender straight people have and which LGBTQ+ people are denied

  • Support the Ally program of their university or workplace

  • Commit themselves to personal growth in spite of the discomfort it may sometimes cause

 What an Ally is NOT

According to the HRC, a positive and real ally recognizes their own personal boundaries. HRC points out how an ally is NOT the following…

 • Someone with ready-made answers
• Necessarily a counselor, nor are they necessarily trained to deal with crisis situations
• Expected to proceed with an interaction if levels of comfort or personal safety have been violated

What is a SAFE Zone Ally?

SAFE is an acronym for Students, Administrators and Faculty for Equality. Generally individuals in communities and campuses have a logo or sticker that indicates that they have been trained and are a safe person to talk to about LGBTQ+ issues and they are supportive of LGBTQ+ individuals. SAFE Zone Allies may have their logo or sticker on their door, laptop or in a different noticeable area so LGBTQ+ members will know they are safe to be around or discuss anything with them.

At KSU, this is what the SAFE Zone Ally sticker looks like:

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Training Workshops

Although workshops and training’s vary in their approaches, you can expect the training to include two parts: 1. Reflective questions and exercises to process and work through your own prejudice and internalized oppression. 2. Effective ways to respond to situations as an ally.

At HRC, their training includes the following questions to discern and pin point our own homophobic narratives:

1. Do you ever not do something because others may think it makes you look gay or lesbian?
2. How would you feel if you had an LGBTQ child?
3. Would you suggest that a person see a therapist if they came out to you?
4. Have you ever laughed at a homophobic or transphobic joke?

 HRC explains, “The aim of these [above] questions and others similar in theme are to assess personal levels of homophobia, heterosexism and transphobia. While the purpose of a program is, in part, to discourage and eliminate homophobia and transphobia, American culture is homophobic and transphobic, and you must discover in what ways you have internalized those ideas and behaviors.”

How to become a SAFE Zone Ally

Both straight and LGBTQ+ individuals or groups who are students or faculty at KSU can register here to be trained at KSU as a SAFE Zone Ally. On that link you will find details of a training on Monday, October 15, 2018.

If you are not a KSU faculty member or student, there is a self-guided training online for anyone to use. Click here for more info.

 Be sure to follow SAFE Zone KSU on Facebook

LGBTQ+ & Ally Resources

For more LGBTQ+ resources on KSU’s campus, click here

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Ally Tip of The Day

Avoid trying to convince members in the LGBTQIA+ community that you are on their side; just be there.


About The Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP and an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Sarah has a degree in Health Science with an emphasis in Public Health. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. In her spare time she enjoys hosting book clubs with her partner, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl.

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A Date With Hate

A few months ago family and friends celebrated as their loved ones graduated from K-State. Each year among the graduation festivities lurks a sobering tradition hosted by the Westboro Baptist Church (WBC) in Topeka, Kansas. WBC is known for going on tour and picketing at places where they know LGBT+ people will be in a public setting.

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WBC show up at high school and college graduations and even at funerals of LGBT+ members who have passed away to display their zealous hate for people in the LGBT+ community. Their doctrines are derived from Calvinism and they sadly use their belief in God as an excuse for their hateful and oppressive behavior. Some of their signs held by men, women and children say, 

  • America is Doomed

  • You're going to HELL

  • God Hates You

  • Repent or Perish

  • God Hates Pride

  • Fag Kats

We at Flint Hills Human Rights Projects also have a tradition--although ours is not as sobering. We show up an hour early to graduations each year to take up most of WBC picketing spot. Our presence is a bit different--we have signs that say, "Congrats Graduates!" or "Love is Love" with a rainbow flag waving in the wind as we pass out donuts and orange juice to the graduates and their loved ones on their way to commencement. A Police Officer annually stands close by to protect everyone and then leaves as soon as the WBC protesters are gone.  

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In Netflix Season 2 of Queer Eye addresses the conflict of when God or beliefs come between LGBT+ members and their families. Many parents don't know how they can accept God and their LGBT+ child at the same time. Although change is happening among families and communities, it can feel like it is happening at a very slow rate. If attending church in Manhattan, KS within an affirming and open congregation is your desire, please check out our resources.  

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And if you haven't heard it already today, know that you are enough. 

Trans Ally Tip of The Day

Don’t let transphobia/cissexism slide. Confront it as you would confront all other forms of oppression. Trans issues are rarely discussed & when they are it is often in a negative light. Click on this link to learn some more ally tips. 


About the Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP and an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Sarah has a degree in Health Science with an emphasis in Public Health. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. In her spare time she enjoys hosting book clubs with her partner, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl.

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Board Member Spotlight

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Activism comes in all shapes and sizes. No matter what our backgrounds or temperaments are, we all have something to contribute to our communities in smallish or large ways. Activism can be a petrifying task, but once a cause enters into our heart it's hard to ignore it. Remember, not all activists are the same. We can all do activism in our own way--the important thing to keep in mind is that we do something. 

This month I wanted to take an opportunity to spotlight one of our board members, Eric Roberts. Eric is presently one of the Co-Chairs of FHHRP. Eric was gracious enough to share with me a little about him and his activist efforts.  

A little About Eric

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"I grew up in East Tennessee on a tobacco farm in the Appalachian Mountains 45 minutes from the best place on Earth, Dolly Parton's Dollywood. I love spending time outdoors more about our world. I have a community garden plot here where I grow a variety of vegetables, herbs, and flowers to share with friends. Cooking is also a huge passion of mine. I love to try new recipes and foods. Nothing beats fresh veggies from the garden. My partner, Kent and I moved to Manhattan in 2015 as he is a graduate student getting his PhD in Ecology from K-State. I'm also very passionate about providing people the tools and support to live their best life. I will also never turn down an opportunity to meet and hang out with anyone. I love meeting new people. I believe that each person has such a great story and I love hearing about them."

What advice do you have for loved ones of the LGBTQ+ community?

 "Recognize that no one understands our experiences better than we [members of the queer community] do." 

Activism is daunting for most people. Why did you decide to become involved with Flint Hills Human Rights Projects? What motivated you to be involved? Was there anything holding you back? If so what gave you the extra ounce of courage?

"When we first moved here we had a bit of a bumpy welcome to Manhattan when a landlord tiptoed around the subject of renting to a gay couple and how it wasn't something they were comfortable with. It definitely put some apprehension into our minds about where we had moved. Then we found out about the work that was going on for the Non-Discrimination ordinance that FHHRP was spearheading. We immediately became members and started attending City Commission meetings in support of the ordinance. I think what finally gave me the courage to want to become further involved was just recognizing there was a need for this organization in this community, and no matter what we end up accomplishing it will matter to someone, somewhere."

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What advice do you have for people in the LGBTQ+ community who desire to be involved but aren't sure how? 

"The best way to become involved if you aren't sure how is to follow what's happening with an organization you'd like to be involved with, and show up to their events and talk to people. This was TERRIFYING for me at first, but it definitely helped with meeting people and growing my network of contacts in Manhattan."

Now what?

For ideas on how to get involved click on this link. We're all in this together. Whether our personalities are fierce or gentle, we have much to offer. Feel free to follow us on Facebook to learn of current news and event in Manhattan, Kansas. 

Ally tip of the day...

Believe that issues related to oppression are everyone’s concern, not just the concern of those who are the targets of oppression.


About the Author

Sarah Bridges is a board member of FHHRP and an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community. Sarah has a degree in Health Science with an emphasis in Public Health. She is originally from Arizona but calls Manhattan, Kansas her home. In her spare time she enjoys hosting book clubs with her partner, hiking, yoga or painting with her strong little girl.

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